Those who are still single may learn something from here... Those who are already married may take it as a guideline to improve your marriage & relationship ... AM I WITH THE RIGHT PERSON?
During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, 'How do I know if I am with the right person?' I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, 'It depends. Is that your partner?' In all seriousness, she answered 'How do you know?' Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.
Here's the answer:
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse / partner . You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies (unconventional behavior/habit). Falling in love with your partner wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called 'falling' in love... Because it's happening TO YOU. People in love sometimes say, 'I was swept of my feet.' Think about the imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU. Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience.
But after a few years of relationship, the euphoria (excitement) of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your partner's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your relationship, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, 'Am I with the right person?' And as you and your partner reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationship breakdown. People blame their partner for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this): THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN RELATIONSHIP IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't 'find' LASTING love. You have to 'make' it day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression 'the labor of love.'
Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your relationship work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner) to succeed with your relationship. Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your relationship stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can 'make' love. Love in relationship is indeed a 'decision'... Not just a feeling. Remember this always: 'God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.'
Edited from Kak Hanez Ismail:)
p/s: To my beloved bf, God determines you to walk into my life. And I'm decided not to let you walk away, I want you to stay, and I refuse to let you go. Coz I love you so much. Happy 8th month anniversary, dear:) Thank you for everything:):)
Kan best kalau aku ade 10juta dolar, aku nak kawen, nak beli rumah best2, beli keta best2, beli furniture, beli ipod, beli mac baru yg best, g travel seluruh dunia ngn si dia, g paris, switzerland, germany, poland, rom, palestin, USA, Mesir, NZ (lg skali), China, etc. pas2 nak g wat haji ngn si dia gak, sponsor my mum and family g wat haji, pas2 sedekah kat umah anak yatim ke, org tua ke, then selebihnye kite labur ke saham, xpon bukak bisnes yg best.
Eiffel Tower, Paris
Kan best kalau aku genius, cm Einstein ke, cm Gaussian ke, paling xpon, cm dak genius kat kelas aku, Eugene. xyah struggling blaja, blaja sikit2, terus dapat dean list. kalau buat project pon, hari ni wat, esok da bole hantar, pas2 dapat H1. mantap kan cm2?
Kan best kalau doraemon tu wujud, bole pinjam kat dia 'intu suka hati' dia tu. kalau nak g jepun, xyah nak susah2 apply visa ke, beli tix ke, naek flight 12jam ke, gune pintu tu, terus sampai saitama. wahhh, life would be lots easier. best kan?
Doraemon ngn pintu suka hati
Kan best kalau bila rasa lapar je, imagine pape, terus food yg kita imagine tu ae depan mata. mantap gile. aku teringin gile nak makan mee kari kerang mak aku, dr aritu dok imagine2, xde pon depan mata. down. kan best kalau ade kan?
Food yg best
Kan best kalau xm tu xpenah wujud dlm dunia. abes sem je, terus cuti. pas2 terus naek final year. xyah susah2 nak kene study ke,or xyah susah2 nak pk nak jd genius.hahah. best kan?
Kan best kalau assignmnt or project tu xpenah wujud. lagi skali, hidup itu lebih indah.ah~
Kan best kalau TM xde requirement utk pass. haha. or senang ckp, TM wat dek je kalau fail, paling xpon, kalau fail, TM bagi je repeat or extend. so, aku xyah nak risau2 lepas ke tak,lepas ke tak..
If I know today is my last on earth, I would enjoy my last moments to the fullest, with my friends, my course mates, my housemates, my family, my parents, and my beloved one, and all the people that I know. I want to make myself to be the happiest person on earth and create the happiest moment ever with the people that I love. I want to leave all the people that I love with the smile in their face, coz I want them to remember my last day as the happiest day, not the other way around. The most important thing, I would ask the forgiveness from Allah, from all my sins and wrongdoings, and pray to him so that I will die in peace. I would do all solat sunat as much as possible, and I would make myself ready for the moment. Death is not the end of my journey, it's just the beginning. I believe, one day in the other world, I would meet all the people that I love in the beautiful way, and together happily ever after.
p/s: Al-Fatihah to Allahyarhamah Fatimatussolihah atas pemergian Allahyarhamah ke rahmatullah pada 13 October 2009 pada usia 22 thn. Smoga roh Allahyarhamah diletakkan di kalangan org2 yg beriman.Amen~
Hello people, I have a bad habit. And I believe everyone does. Or maybe I would say, most people do. My bad habit is, I like drinking coffee and energy drink. I know maybe some people do not consider this is the bad habit, but I do, coz I take it everyday and it give bad side effects on me. The solely and only reason I take them is; TO BOOST MY ENERGY LEVEL. If I don't consume them, I will fall asleep in class, even I try my hard not to, and I will easily lose my concentration (tau2 je kelas da abes). The only solution, or I would say, the short-cut-solution is drinking coffee and energy drink. Do not misleading with that statement, I only take one of them at a time. At first I will take coffee, till it doesn't give me the effect that I want anymore, I will move to energy drink. This is a really2 bad habit. WARNING: Do not imitate this. The bad thing about drinking coffee and energy drink (especially on me) is it makes my lips go super dry. And I hate when my lips are dry cause it makes me feel uncomfortable and uneasy.
So I went to google about this matter as the curiosity begins to kill me and I found these:
Caffeine is diuretic. An excessive amount of it will cause the skin to dry as the consumer is forced to urinate more often. More info, click here. Hence, this will leads to the depletion of water. As the caffeine is an antagonist to the receptor for the neurotransmitter adenosine, hence people who regularly consume caffeine will increase the adenosine receptor. The increasing number of adenosine receptor causes 2 thing: firstly it causes tolerance adaptation and secondly, make individuals much more sensitive to adenosine.Caffeine tolerance develops very quickly, especially among heavy coffee and energy drink consumers.
What is tolerance adaptation? Tolerance adaptation is when ur body needs more amount of caffeine to give the same effects as the first time u take the caffeine. This isnt good since ur body will need more and more of caffeine at the same time disturbing the stability of the receptor system.
What is the bad thing having much more sensitivity to adenosine? A reduction in caffeine intake will effectively increase the normal physiological effects of adenosine, resulting in unwelcome withdrawal symptoms in tolerant users.
Withdrawal symptoms: i)headache and nausea ii) fatigue iii) anxiety, irritability, inability to concentrate and diminished motivation to initiate or to complete daily tasks iv)headache, irritability, an inability to concentrate, drowsiness, insomnia and pain in the stomach, upper body, and joints
Hello people, Here I go again, sorry if my writing lately is more about myself, my life, and my routine, I know it might be boring for some people, just bear with me,okay?hehe. Apology for that, I've been busy (or more precised, lazy) these few weeks time, haven't read the newspaper so I don't have any idea what's going on so that I can give my comment on it.sigh. Need to be more hardworking.
Forget about that for a while, actually I was asked by my friends to update this blog about my belated birthday celebration last night (haha,saje je ckp kene update blog,jd jahat sikit:P). To be honest, I was surprised, as I was not expecting any celebration by them for my birthday.
My QC-mates and me with the cake
Thank you for all my QC-mates, especially Kak Murni for the delicious hand-made cake,
The delicious hand-made cake by Kak Murni.sedap!:)
Kak Syanifas for the delicious egg tart, peanuts, orange juice, coffee and the location (buat kat rumah Kak Syafinas), thank you to Linda, Diey, Wani, Kak Fad,Kak Murni, Kak Tmc, Syahirah (I was told you two also shared for the gift), and Akila for the great gift, the handbag or can I say school bag?hehe.
The beautiful handbag gift:)
I was so happy receiving the gift.Thanks:)
Thank you, thank you and thank you! Oh yes, thank you also for the cute birthday card,
The cute card
all the wishes in it, I love it! Millions of thanks to all of you.